I'm no one's wife, a guy. This, in addition to inadequate bench rake, is another issue for we humans with longer inseams, and shorter torsos. Bodies are built differently. This isn't a gender issue. I'm 6' and ordering a retainer clip, that combines the belts where they enter the buckle receptacle. This little square slider doesn't require threading the belts, and extends the shoulder belt's ascent a little further toward the door, before it rises (taking it away from your throat). Still, Tesla seems to have chosen a high point on the B-pillar.
My Lexus has this. It's one of those set it and forget it features. However it is important for driver comfort. The setting is stored with the drivers setting so it is always right when I get in no matter who was driving before me.